Gender, Gender Identity, and Sexual Orientation

My entire career has been in the military realm of child care. In the military community, there is lots of acceptable cultures and beliefs, however it was not until the past five years that there has been a shift in the acceptance of those who are homosexual or transgender. With this shift of “don’t ask don’t tell” to the shift of acceptance there has been many different views and beliefs that have been both accepting as well as controversial. Working with the adults to create the shift within the programs has been a difficult task, yet it is slowly coming along in a more positive light.

Your response to those who believe that early childhood centers should avoid the inclusion of books depicting gay or lesbian individuals such as same-sex partnered families?

I have always believed to be who you are no matter what you believe allow others to be who they wish to be. With that being said I believe that books as well as other items such as toys or photos should be a part of the inclusion process in our centers. I do believe it should not be forced, but as children enter the program with the differences or begin to recognize them it should be addressed in a manner that is appropriate for the age and children. I believe as any other difference culturally or physically a child brings to the center is should be embraced and delivered in a way that the children are able to learn and build their own beliefs on the topic.

How you would respond to a parent/family member who informed you they did not want anyone who is perceived (or self-reported) homosexual or transgender to be caring for, educating, and/or interacting with their child?

As I spoke above about the shift within the military I have handled this as I do any other concern a parent or guardian has about those who are staffed in the program. I ensure them that those who are employed within are vetted in a way that they are here because they want your child to grow and succeed developing into the best person they are able to be. Learning from people who are possibly different is important for children to naturally learn about others and how they live. At no time would a staff member force their beliefs on a child, yet should a child ask questions the educator is to use tact and facts while answering keeping in mind to remain professional and unbiased.

With the ever-changing society, we live in being prepared for the children and their families to be from any and all types of families is important. Creating inclusion and acceptance of those who are different is important to show those children they are valued and accepted for who they are and who they want to be.